Here is a guest post from our study of The Search For Significance – this week by the delightful Emily. You can find her other musings at Emily’s Windowpane
The Search for Significance – Part 4
So, for the fourth week of our Bible study/discussion group in The Search for Significance we focused on Chapters 7-8 which addresses Lie #3: The Blame Game. Basically the Blame Game is the belief that “Those who fail (including myself) are unworthy of love and deserve to be punished.” (McGee) Believing this lie leads to a few consequences that are outlined in the book:
- The fear of punishment
- Punishing others
- Blaming others for personal failure
- Withdrawal from God and others
- Drive to avoid failure
This lie is extremely dangerous because in a strange, twisted way it appeals to our pride…and yet it leads to cutting ourselves down through shame. Through this lie, Satan leads us to put our worth in our successes and brings us to despair in our failures while also trying to qualify other people by their success and their failures. Hmm, wrong answers.
When we follow this lie of the Blame Game, we completely lose sight of the only thing, the only person that makes us right in God’s eyes: Jesus Christ. As 1 John 4:9-10 says, “God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him.This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.” (NLT) It is through Christ’s act of love on the cross that we no longer have any room to measure ourselves or others by our success and failures
How ironic (more like completely providential) that I was listening to a song by Moriah Peters called No Shame as I prepared for leading the discussion last week. Here’s the chorus:
He knows your name
Every tear you cry
He knows the pain
How you feel alone
Feel the weight of the blame
But mercy longs to reach us
In the arms of Jesus
There is no shame
Beautiful, isn’t it? Just the simple reminder that God has swept my sins from the map of my life, that He has decided in his perfect love and mercy to not count my disobedience–my ugly sin–against me but to instead see me in the shining light of his Son’s glorious perfection is the most important truth that I took away from the study this week. Yes, it’s Christianity 101, but sometimes the “duh” things of our faith are the easiest to be distracted from.
No more sin, no more shame! WHAT a cause for joy! We are perfect in His eyes!